Dear 2012: I don’t know what goals to make


About two years ago I felt really stuck – completely glued in place, no idea how to get unstuck or what do to when I did.

I had just left my position running a local womens organization and my job was mind-numbing to the point where I actually thought I didn’t enjoy designing anymore.

I’ve always been a person with strong passion for what I’m working on and when I lost that feeling I was worried. I kept picturing my life in 10, 20, 30 years and all I saw was the same desk and the same computer and the same boring work. It was a scary thought.

Then I got sort of lucky (yes, lucky) when my relationship blew up in my face and I had a health scare. Those two things led me to aerial and freelancing and when I starting feeling passion for both of those things shoot out of me like fireworks I knew I was back on track.

Now I’m not saying you should wish for something catastrophic to shake you loose from your current situation, but here are a few exercises to help get yourself pointed in the right direction. It’s important that you don’t worry about the details or how you’ll get to where you want to be. Don’t hold yourself back just because your dream sounds out of reach. I joined the circus…I think you can go a little crazy with your dreaming too.

1 // Picture your life in five years. Who are you with? Where are you living? What does your home look like? What are you doing on a typical day? How are you starting your morning? What are you doing at the end of the day?

2 // What do you not want? For me it’s being glued to a desk all day, public speaking, and a boss watching my every move.

3 // Try something new. (Like maybe taking a trapeze class??) You don’t have to jump headfirst into a new career or project. You can test the waters a little bit by taking a class, volunteering or trying out ideas on friends and family.

4 // Lastly and most morbidly…you’re dead. Yep, dead as a doornail at the ripe old age of 100 and the room is filling for your funeral. Is it a big crowd of people you’ve inspired from afar or a small gathering of close family and friends? What are people saying about you? How did you make them feel? What are their memories of you?

Now here is the part where you have to be brave because I’m sure many of you are going to come up with ideas that take you far away from what you’re currently doing and completely out of your comfort zone. You can refer back to my previous post on deciding if your goal is something you truly have passion for and the time to dedicate to it. Or check by tomorrow for my tips on making an action plan because there’s no better time to get started than now.

>>> TOMORROW: Making a plan

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  1. says

    This is great. The last three tasks I have absolutely no problem with, but trying to picture my life in five years time…? I’ve just never been able to do that and, in hindsight, it would have been useful to have a bit more of a plan; I really need to think about making one now!