Dear internet – it’s time to get off the band wagon. I know I’ve written about this before and I will probably write about it again, but it’s something that drives me absolutely crazy. I keep seeing the same exact outfits, DIY projects, recipes, even the style of writing repeated through blog after blog. I’m BORED.
We’re all crammed into this tiny bubble of blogging, tweeting, Instagramming. It makes us so aware of what other people are doing all the time, intentionally or not, we end up mimicking each other.
It’s like when you watch a TV series all in one go – hours and hours where all the actors have southern accents or British accents and you find your voice and thoughts beginning to sound like they’re part of the show.
We’re so consumed by what other people are doing that we’ve started absorbing it into our lives and our blogs.
I used to follow over a hundred blogs and now that number is dwindling as they all mush together into the same repetitive boring slop. I don’t want to do what everyone else is doing just because they have tons of followers and comments. I want to do what I like. I’m not into vintage dresses and clunky shoes and taking pictures on coffee dates. I’m into stripes and combat boots and taking pictures of my growing muscles.
And I’m not writing because something is “soooo cuuuuuteee” and promoting shopping lists from my sponsors, I’m writing because I want to help people make their sites bad ass, take risks, chase their passions and not wake up in two years thinking “Crap…why didn’t I start this sooner?”
I’m not saying my tutorials are first-offs and no one has ever written about coding and escaping a day job, hundreds of people have, but I don’t follow any of those people. I don’t watch what other developers are writing and I only follow a few designers. I listen to my readers & clients and see what issues they are running into and then I post tutorials to help them, not to keep up everyone else and their perfect internet lives.
So how to you stay true to yourself? First off, remember there is not one other person EVER who will see things the way you do and say things the way you do and it’s a shame for you to waste your time taking on the traits of people online to build some image of the perfect person.
(I’m not perfect – I was extremely crabby on Friday, danced until I was sweaty and my feet were numb on Saturday and spent Sunday morning rehearsal laying on a landing mat because hanging upside down and spinning sounded like a horrible idea.)
Take a few weeks away from reading blogs, tweeting, pinning, Instagramming to find your voice. Would you really love the things you love & write the things you write if you weren’t being bombarded the same posts/pins/tweets over and over every day? Share what comes from your heart instead of reposting the things that are trending online in the hope that your blog will grow.
Do you know how the biggest bloggers became popular? They were not afraid to be authentic, put themselves out there and share what they love even if it wasn’t popular at the time. They knew that not everyone would like them or what they had to say and they were confident enough and loved themselves enough to be who they are anyway.
I don’t follow bloggers who make me want to be more like them, I follow bloggers who inspire me to me more like ME. Here are a few of my favorites who appear to truly follow the beat of their very own drum & don’t give a shit about what everyone else is doing…Sarah, Kathleen, Danielle, Veronica.
Who are your favorite authentic, inspiring bloggers?