As the-year-that-was-not-so-much-fun (for me at least) is coming to a close I’ve been asking myself lots of questions to determine what I want 2018 to look like. Questions about where I want to spend my energy, how I can next-level the help I’m providing, and how I want to feel at this time next year.
2017 was a year of challenges and worry and being shoved out of my comfort zone. As much as I’m grateful for what I’ve learned and the changes I’m preparing to make, I am SO ready for to feel excitement and relief and move toward what I want with confidence.
I’m going to be making some big changes to the programs I run (info on that coming in January!) and to keep myself from being slowed by worry or doubt, I’ve been thinking about how much what I do has evolved over the past couple of years.
When I launched Dare to Grow (when called Badass Babes Blog Club + E-Course) in 2014 I had that “Yes! This is it!” feeling. I remember standing in my bedroom late at night, after weeks of feeling like some idea was bubbling in my brain that I couldn’t grasp yet, and the fully formed idea popped into my head so suddenly that I started to cry.
I remember thinking, “Holy shit, holy shit, holy shit” and scrambling to grab a notebook to write down my ideas before they evaporated.
I created that first iteration of the program in a Google community. Then moved the lessons into an email sequence. Then moved the lessons into a Wishlist Member site. Then added video. Then moved the community to Slack. Then moved the lessons into Teachable, the community to a Facebook group, and added live monthly coaching.
Over four years, I have re-written those lessons over and over and over and re-shot the video three or four times (both of which I’m doing again this month).
And in February, Dare to Grow will morph into its next stage. (Actually it’s already morphing behind the scenes which is making the February launch seem like such a long wait!)
Now, instead of following my initial instinct to research and plan and plan and plan, I’m writing and creating and hitting publish to move through my doubts and land on something that I have lot of faith is there even though I don’t know exactly what it is yet.
If you are on the precipice of starting or launching or changing, I encourage you to do the same thing. Like it or not, whatever you create is going to evolve and change. Your audience might change, your branding might change, the name might change, how you deliver things might change. It’s going to happen. So you’re really better off jumping in and doing the work instead of trying to nail down perfection from the start.
I had to run the Dare to Grow course and the community in different ways for YEARS to figure out what worked best for me and for the members because the answers are ALWAYS in the doing. I had to be OK with launching something imperfect and making changes as I went in order to REALLY figure out what I should be creating and offering.
The only way to land on the right niche or service or product is to learn through creating stuff that isn’t quite right. You’ll pick up all the skills you need so when you do land on YOUR THING you’ll be prepared not just with the tools to make it run but with the mindset that you are worthy of wielding your power and the confidence that your audience needs to hear what you have to say. #damnthatsgonnafeelgood
Once you get to YOUR THING, it’s still going to evolve. Not one single person has ever reached the pinnacle of what they were working on and thought, “Perfect, I’ll stay here forever.” Reaching the pinnacle only means that you can see clearer and further and at some point a path, a ladder, a staircase (maybe a flying trapeze??) will appear to keep you moving and improving.
It’s also helpful to remember that excitement and purpose don’t always show up on day one. Instead what you get is doubt, uncertainty, overwhelm, comparison and a bunch of other worthless emotions that slow you down. Despite those feelings, everything you create is a worthwhile piece of your path to something that WILL at some point make you feel so excited and purposeful and driven you won’t know what to do with yourself.
So publish things and launch things and know it’s OK (and totally normal) if it takes time to find your thing, your niche, your unique value. You will continue to evolve with every iteration and you will only be able to evolve by doing the work in the first place. So it’s better to get to doing than waste your time with excessive researching and planning (this is coming from someone who LOVES to plan) and hoping that your first step is perfect.
Tell me . . . what has your journey looked like in finding YOUR THING?
Are you just starting, trying to figure out what to create? Are you in the middle of evolving? Or have you reached a place of excitement and purpose, and how long did it take to get there?
P.S. When I was editing this, THIS post showed up in the related links. It’s the exact post I wrote in 2013 when Dare to Grow was a mere blip in my brain and I was trying to figure out WTF I was supposed to be creating.