Get out a pen + paper because today we’re going to talk about 3 beliefs that hold most people back from getting to the next level in their business. And journaling on these issues is HIGHLY recommended!
Whether I’m talking to people on Instagram, Facebook groups, email, or in my coaching program, I head the same issues on repeat:
- I have trouble being consistent
- I don’t have the time or money
- I make plans, but then I don’t stick to my deadlines
Those roadblocks are the go-to response because they’re easy to understand. But underneath that issue is often a belief that it’s much harder to un-do because we’ve been holding it (often unconsciously) for years.
So today I want to share 3 of the main beliefs that hold solopreneurs back from feeling confident enough to:
- Show up more
- Launch a product
- Step into a CEO position and take their business seriously
1 ➞ People will respond negatively if I show up more
Oh hated and oft feared internet troll. You might be imagining that as soon as you start posting stories, hopping on video, or creating on IGTV, the haters are gonna show up in droves.
But after 9+ years on Instagram and over 2,000 posts, I can say with the utmost certainty that this is NOT going to happen. It will take YEARS of showing up and tens of thousands of followers before anyone is going to show up with a nasty comment and by then you’ll be so resilient and successful you won’t even care!
But right now, if you show up, do you know who is actually going to respond??? Your audience!
Yes, if you show up more, post most, do more video, YOUR people (not those imaginary haters) are going to show up. They followed you because they want to see MORE so they’ll be excited when you ditch that belief and go hang out with them!
2 ➞ Once I earn / feel confident I’ll…
Once I…
Earn enough money…
Have more time…
Feel more confident…
Leave my 9 to 5…
Get it perfectly perfect…
How long have you been waiting for the right moment to magically appear before you really lean in to what we want to do? Too long!
We’ve been taught that we need to HAVE something to DO something that will allow us to BE something.
Have ➞ Do ➞ Be
But we should actually be focusing on BEING someone who DOES a thing that allows us to HAVE what we want.
Be ➞ Do ➞ Have
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For example: Instead of waiting until you HAVE confidence before you DO stories so that you can BE someone with a successful business.
You need to BE more serious about your business and DO stories so that you can HAVE more confidence to show up.
At every level of growth, you are still going to run into moments of wanting something to happen before you take action. But the more you figure out how to BE and then DO first, the faster you’ll see things grow.
3 – If I really go for it and grow my business it means…
While we like to imagine all the fun things that will happen when we get to the next level, we probably spend more time thinking about things like…
- My family won’t understand me doing this full time
- I won’t have time for my family
- I’ll have to hire a team and it will take up more time
- I’ll feel out of control
- My friends won’t connect with me as well because of my success
- I’ll have to travel, speak, people more
Reminder: YOU are the CEO and you can build whatever damn business you want! A business that revolves around your life, focused on the things that are most important, while keeping your priorities a priority.
So write down your own list of what could happen and then look at each belief and ask yourself – is this really likely??
- You’ll be absent from your family OR your biz will run like a well oiled machine, so you’ll have more time freedom and $$ for vacation
- You’ll have to hire and manage a team OR you’ll hire a team and someone to manage them so you have more time to be creative
Now, I don’t expect you to magically change your beliefs. I’ve been doing a lot of work on my own beliefs this year and it’s definitely a process and sometimes an uncomfortable one.
Which is why joining a program like Dare to Grow is SO valuable. If you’re continuously stalled by the what-ifs, perfectionism, feeling like you have to work crazy hours to get anywhere, hiring a coach can get you unstuck SO FAST.
In 3 months you’re going to…
- Feel confident about what you’re creating and how you’re showing up for your audience
- Be more connected with and dedicated to your message and your mission
- Feel clear in the steps you need to take to create significant growth
- And of course, have a product that is generating income so you can – quit your job, hire help, take a vacation, or just be done working before your kids get home from school!
One of my D2G coaching students sent me this a few days ago:
I can’t get over how much your coaching has helped us. I can speak for myself (and probably Nicole too!) that your strategies have completely changed my productivity and given me LASER focus, not to mention the accountability I need so badly to finish a project like this!
I’ve been saying to myself all day – the tools you gave us during the coaching program were exactly what we’ve been looking for these past TWO years and OH how I wish we had done this sooner! Just in the last two days, I’ve uploaded our entire sales email sequence + put the finishing touches on our Instagram posts (and planned them too!), and it feels SO good. Your strategies and templates are GOLD. Thank you, thank you, thank you. – Kendra | DevotedMamas.com
That is EXACTLY what I’m dedicated to making happen for you too.
Instead of feeling like you’re doing a ton of work without results and unsure every step of the way, watching everyone else have success while waiting for the magic confidence / time / money to show up….
You’ll be taking daily focused action, feeling excited to show up and connect with your people, and seeing your business GROW.
If you’re ready to make it happen…
you made me laugh:)))
@Oh hated and oft feared internet troll. You might be imagining that as soon as you start posting stories, hopping on video, or creating on IGTV, the haters are gonna show up in droves.@